Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Working with Difficult People

Today I decided to read and post things on the subject of working with difficult people.
Not because I personally do/don't work with difficult people( you figure). 
My personal findings are that some Difficult people don't think they are hard to work with. 
I did some research on this subject to find out if I was a difficult person to work with. 
My answer to myself before the research was that I am not a difficult person to to work with, my Husband may not be that quick to agree but my most of my co-workers love working with me. ( I think)!




Have you ever met a person you can't stand? 
Difficult people may not do what you want them to do or do what you don't want them to do, and you may not know what to do with them. 
You can't change a difficult person, you can learn to communicate with them in ways that empower you to react with five distinct responses.

"Conflict has an emotional cost that remains after the battle is over. 
Win or lose, the scares may be with you for the rest of your life. People spend their lives focusing on the promotion they 'lost,' the business they 'lost,' the divorce they 'lost,' the project they 'lost.' This tunnel vision keeps them gripped, locked in their own anger…. The small battles between partners, parents and children, employees and bosses take a significant toll. 
Productivity and satisfaction, in business and personal relationships, come from are ability to collaborate with others. When you are resolved, you can fully focus on the tasks at hand. Your efforts are undiluted. Unresolved conflict, on the other hand, is an impediment to productivity and to satisfying, functional relationships. In today's world of 'knowledge work,' focus and creativity are essential. It's impossible to be fully productive when you are angry. That's why getting resolved about the situation that's sapping your strength and attention is very important."

-Stewart Levine



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